Baby-Killing and Self-Discovery
I feel it is necessary to discuss something of a fragile and unpleasant nature today: the self. More specifically, the duties that appease the self, and how we often rationalize these behaviors by framing them as selfless. Even more specifically, the self-centeredness, self-righteousness, and self-servitude that is nowhere in the world more bloated and more blatant than in the overemotional abortion issue.
How many times must we hear the story of the pregnant woman whose boyfriend wants an abortion? And how often is the boyfriend chastised for being selfish, while the woman is praised for being courageous? Somehow, the woman's desire to maintain the pregnancy is held up as noble.
It's not.
What if the man wants an abortion because he hasn't the money to support a child, and therefore cannot provide it a healthy lifestyle? Is he still being selfish? Women often counter this by saying that there is never a "right time" to have a baby. If a woman waits for her man to be "ready" to have a baby, then she will be waiting forever. These are wrongheaded and unfair exaggerations, as every human being has the capacity to change. If the man insists that he will never, EVER be willing to have a baby, only then is the woman correct. I haven't met many men like that. I think that most men really do want children, so long as they are confident enough to accept the responsibility.
Despite what some women will tell you, there are indeed right and proper times to have children, as opposed to poor and inappropriate times. Say a woman is dating an angry, drunken, abusive man who hits her and assumes she knows the reasons why. Let's also say that this woman is afraid to leave the man because she thinks she's ugly and unwanted and she believes that she won't find anyone else. Now imagine a couple who love each other, have secure jobs, live in a large apartment with extra room, drive by an elementary school on the way to work each morning, and meet with a network of friends every other weekend. By a woman's argument, neither of these couples is apparently in the right place to have children.
Some women say that men don't want children because those men want to hoard their time and money and energy for themselves rather than share it. The problem with this argument is that the child is not yet born, and so it has no need for anyone's time, money, or energy. It's hard to say that you're denying something from someone when that someone doesn't exist. If the woman puts forth that the man MIGHT neglect his hypothetical child at some point in the future, she might as well don a turban and try looking through sealed envelopes, because she's making wild predictions to support vague assumptions. It's like the irrational jealousy a woman has for another even in her mate's absence, as she thinks that if her boyfriend was present, he MIGHT ogle that other gal. That's the kind of louse he is, right?
Some women say that it is against God's will that babies be aborted. Then they vote for warmongering politicians (Republican and Democrat) who take money from polluting, outsourcing industrial lobbies. They hear about children being slaughtered in the contested regions of Africa and then continue chewing their hamburgers. They ignore the parts of the Bible that talk about infants' brains being dashed to bits on the rocks, all in the name of God. These women do not care for human life in the altruistic manner they purport. Like the queens of the insect world, these women care only for their own broods.
Most commonly, women use the selfish word because they think that, in requesting an abortion, the man is not thinking of the baby, but only of himself. Well, here's a point most people don't like to admit: the woman isn't thinking of the baby either. She's thinking of her own instinctive need to nurture, to hold her new little doll, to have something to love, to test out her plumbing, to meet her all-American goal of building a family. It's no different from the male need to dominate his herd by injecting his DNA into as many females as possible. Both genders are no less entrenched in the superficial business of fulfilling their biological needs, their only differences are the actions that satisfy those needs.
There is one, only ONE reason to deny abortion that is truly, completely without guile, and that is the simplest, most natural reason of all: to maintain the human species. However, there is no longer a need to maintain the human species. There are already six and a half billion of us on a planet with unevenly distributed resources. If there is anything to be done for the greater good of humanity, it is to STOP the propagation of the species. Population control, unintuitive as it might sound, could very well save lives someday.
Now, look. I know it's painful to investigate one's own motivations, but before we all start shouting about how everyone else in the world is so selfish, let us turn our judging eyes inward, and think about the verbs we use. "I want a baby" starts with "I want," a pair of words that could just as well precede "to lose weight," or "to watch my soaps," or "to choke that bitch with the huge boobs over there." It is an expression of personal, individual entitlement, no matter how it is spun, polished, or redressed.
If you ladies simply must hold and feed something and feel good about yourself for doing it, do what Christ would do: keep your legs shut and take care of some poor kids. Take less for the people who don't exist yet, and give more to the people who do.
How many times must we hear the story of the pregnant woman whose boyfriend wants an abortion? And how often is the boyfriend chastised for being selfish, while the woman is praised for being courageous? Somehow, the woman's desire to maintain the pregnancy is held up as noble.
It's not.
What if the man wants an abortion because he hasn't the money to support a child, and therefore cannot provide it a healthy lifestyle? Is he still being selfish? Women often counter this by saying that there is never a "right time" to have a baby. If a woman waits for her man to be "ready" to have a baby, then she will be waiting forever. These are wrongheaded and unfair exaggerations, as every human being has the capacity to change. If the man insists that he will never, EVER be willing to have a baby, only then is the woman correct. I haven't met many men like that. I think that most men really do want children, so long as they are confident enough to accept the responsibility.
Despite what some women will tell you, there are indeed right and proper times to have children, as opposed to poor and inappropriate times. Say a woman is dating an angry, drunken, abusive man who hits her and assumes she knows the reasons why. Let's also say that this woman is afraid to leave the man because she thinks she's ugly and unwanted and she believes that she won't find anyone else. Now imagine a couple who love each other, have secure jobs, live in a large apartment with extra room, drive by an elementary school on the way to work each morning, and meet with a network of friends every other weekend. By a woman's argument, neither of these couples is apparently in the right place to have children.
Some women say that men don't want children because those men want to hoard their time and money and energy for themselves rather than share it. The problem with this argument is that the child is not yet born, and so it has no need for anyone's time, money, or energy. It's hard to say that you're denying something from someone when that someone doesn't exist. If the woman puts forth that the man MIGHT neglect his hypothetical child at some point in the future, she might as well don a turban and try looking through sealed envelopes, because she's making wild predictions to support vague assumptions. It's like the irrational jealousy a woman has for another even in her mate's absence, as she thinks that if her boyfriend was present, he MIGHT ogle that other gal. That's the kind of louse he is, right?
Some women say that it is against God's will that babies be aborted. Then they vote for warmongering politicians (Republican and Democrat) who take money from polluting, outsourcing industrial lobbies. They hear about children being slaughtered in the contested regions of Africa and then continue chewing their hamburgers. They ignore the parts of the Bible that talk about infants' brains being dashed to bits on the rocks, all in the name of God. These women do not care for human life in the altruistic manner they purport. Like the queens of the insect world, these women care only for their own broods.
Most commonly, women use the selfish word because they think that, in requesting an abortion, the man is not thinking of the baby, but only of himself. Well, here's a point most people don't like to admit: the woman isn't thinking of the baby either. She's thinking of her own instinctive need to nurture, to hold her new little doll, to have something to love, to test out her plumbing, to meet her all-American goal of building a family. It's no different from the male need to dominate his herd by injecting his DNA into as many females as possible. Both genders are no less entrenched in the superficial business of fulfilling their biological needs, their only differences are the actions that satisfy those needs.
There is one, only ONE reason to deny abortion that is truly, completely without guile, and that is the simplest, most natural reason of all: to maintain the human species. However, there is no longer a need to maintain the human species. There are already six and a half billion of us on a planet with unevenly distributed resources. If there is anything to be done for the greater good of humanity, it is to STOP the propagation of the species. Population control, unintuitive as it might sound, could very well save lives someday.
Now, look. I know it's painful to investigate one's own motivations, but before we all start shouting about how everyone else in the world is so selfish, let us turn our judging eyes inward, and think about the verbs we use. "I want a baby" starts with "I want," a pair of words that could just as well precede "to lose weight," or "to watch my soaps," or "to choke that bitch with the huge boobs over there." It is an expression of personal, individual entitlement, no matter how it is spun, polished, or redressed.
If you ladies simply must hold and feed something and feel good about yourself for doing it, do what Christ would do: keep your legs shut and take care of some poor kids. Take less for the people who don't exist yet, and give more to the people who do.
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